A few days ago, I read an email from Viviana in which she asked me for some tips to help her “not to be so negative” and to improve her self-esteem. Since I know that these are topics that can help many more people, I promised Viviana that I would write more frequently about them.
From from a neuroscience point of view, negativity has a major impact on brain function.And since it is a habit fixed in your subconscious, the typical “advice” you see on social networks such as “change your attitude,” “try harder,” or “think positively,” will only generate more stress, anxiety, anguish and affect your self-esteem levels.
Becoming aware of one’s own negativity is a big step; changing it, however, requires time, patience and perseverance.
You’ve probably read or heard that you are your own biggest critic, and for the most part, that’s true. We do not have the same compassion and understanding that we have for others. We demand more of ourselves, criticize ourselves more, and judge ourselves more than anyone else..
That internal dialogue and all the beliefs implanted in our subconscious are difficult to replace,
but here I leave you a little trick with which you can start the change.
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👇 Tip of the Day 👇
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Change the focus and emotional charge of your negative decrees, by adding a word.
Whenever you notice a negative internal dialogue,
complement your affirmation with “yet,” “still” and “so far.”
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For example:
- Instead of “I don’t know how to solve X,” say “Istill don’t know how to solve X.”
- Change “I am like this, I can’t change,” to “I have been like thisuntil now, but I can change.”
- Instead of “I don’t have the numbers”, change it to “I don’t have the numbers yet“.
Yes, these are basic examples, and although they may seem like subtle changes, at a neurological level they make a big difference.. While the initial statements suggest impossibility, adding these words transforms the focus and emotional charge.
Thanks to neuroplasticity, your brain is highly adaptable and can change throughout your life. By incorporating these words, you reinforce the idea that change and improvement are possible. This belief, once implanted in your subconscious, stimulates the brain to create new neural connections, supporting learning and growth.
If
up until now
you’ve been a negative person,
don’t forget that with this little trick you can start to change it.
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